Anyone is capable of loving another. But to be ‘in love’ and to have a balanced and healthy relationship, one must truly love themselves first. A good relationship is a balance of give and take. It could be really hard to take from your boyfriend if you feel you don’t deserve their love due to your insecurities. Or it could be hard to give, if you feel that you need to take to feel loved. You have to be 100% complete as an individual before you can dedicate yourself to another. You should be able to look in the mirror and be satisfied with what you see and realize that the world is made up of all shapes and sizes. Although the sad reality is that too often, in relationships, people put too much emphasis on their outer appearances rather than what’s on the inside. It’s also important to not only accept yourself physically, but from within as well. Love a person for whats on the inside, not on the outside. If you only date people that look good physically, you’ll probably end up in a relationship that only looks good on the outside as well. When a guy likes me because he thinks I’m pretty, I tend not to pay much attention. When a guy gets to know me, then begins to like me for who I am & my personality, I’m far more inclined to give him a chance. They say finding love is like finding shoes. More often than not, people go after the good-looking ones. But in the end, they will choose the one that makes them feel comfortable. :)
Matching Manicure special thanks to Nail It Salon | SUSIE KIM made in Korea Fur Jacket (KPOP inspired) | MANGO off-white dress | SM Accessories Ring | M A K E U P : MAC Eyebrow Gel | Nowplaying: When I Was Your Man - Bruno Mars
Let me start by saying everyone is beautiful - thin, fat, short, tall, black, white or asian. I am 5”2, 84 lbs and have only once or twice managed to gain enough weight to get over the 90 lbs threshold. I’ve always been naturally thin. I guess I’m what you’d call “petite” + I also have a fast metabolism. I’ve received a number of messages asking for more details about my workout routine/ fitness regimen. First step is to determine your body type. You can use the body type calculator to help you. Next, choose a realistic role model to help you. Some call it their “thinspiration" Mine are Miley Cyrus & Candice Swanepoel. Their bodies are to die for! A great tip is to cut out a picture of one of those gorgeous models from a magazine. Keep it on the refrigerator or nearby to remind you of your goal.
DIET! I would not recommend diet books or programs because once you lose the weight you will go back to doing what you did before and gain it all back. My sister once tried the master cleanse diet and was sick for one whole month, eek! Eat healthy and drink lots of water! Get in your cardio! You absolutely have to exercise. I usually do 30 minutes non-stop on the treadmill 3 times a week + 3 sets of 12 squats + 30 lunges + crunches to one full song on my iPod. Wanna know what’s on my month’s feel good/work out playlist? 1. Clarity - Zedd 2. Greyhound (Radio Edit) - Swedish House Mafia 3. Mirrors - Justin Timberlake 4. Love On Top - Beyonce 5. Million Voices - Otto Knows
It is said that love is for all seasons. That’s true, but there’s nothing like Valentine’s Day to remind your significant other that you’ve fallen in love with her 365 times over the past year. I am a hopeless romantic and since Valentine’s day is just around the corner, here are some photos of my boyfriend, James and I. I always look forward to this time of the year when all the sap, cheese and big cheeky gestures of affection take place.. James and I have been together for 2 years now and we love doing absolutely everything together. He’s made everyday seem special. It feels like valentine’s day everyday. Photographed by Tricia Gosingtian. Check out her blog: tricia will go places | @tgosingtian. Styling by Marita Galvez | @marita_galvez
The classic ways of showing your appreciation are always safe — cards, chocolates, cupcakes teddy bears and roses. If you’re a boy and currently reading this, then you’re in the right place. Here are some tips on how to win her heart over on Valentine’s day. Girls loooove jewelry. I personally am old fashioned, so something like a cutesy heart necklace and a single rose is soo romantic to me. Another great idea is to sing her a song or if you can’t sing, do it the old fashioned way and make her a mixtape/iPod playlist. It’s the little things that count. Remember, girls love attention. Go on a picnic, visit a carnival or maybe a divine spa treatment for the two of you?
But don’t forget boys need some loving too! One of the best lessons I’ve learned throughout the beautiful relationship I have with James, is that love is about compromise. It goes both ways. Although picking out a Valentine’s Day gift for a man can be tricky. Some flowers and a teddy bear just wont do. It’s very important to know what he likes. Maybe surprise him with breakfast in the morning or decorating his room with balloons? It’s always the thought that counts.
On Ericka: FOREVER21 Cream Sweater | Topshop Pink Tutu | Dickies Floral Ruffle Socks | People Are People Pastel Green Pumps | Accessorize Gold Headband - On James: Zara Men Dark Blue Varsity Jacket | Zara Men Gray T-shirt | Topman Khaki Pants | Aldo Shoes
On Ericka: SM Department Store Floral Dress | FOREVER21 Wedges - On James: Zara Men Maroon T-shirt | Topman Light-washed Denim | Aldo Shoes
Don’t forget to take lots of photos! A camera is an essential item to capture the memories of your special day! The polaroid photos were taken with The Fujifilm Instax Mini 7s it’s a small, simple, alien looking camera that also carries a sense of fun hipster-like appeal to it. Got this camera last year around January in Singapore (also available here in the Philippines in Rockwell) and I instantly fell in love with it after my first picture. Although the film is quite expensive (500php for a pack of 10. It comes in rainbow/plain white film), I highly recommend to people that wish to keep pictures the old fashioned way. It could also be a cute gift for Valentine’s day. *Camera in photo above is an OLYMPUS OMD
TIPS FOR THE LADIES:
Silence those negative voices in your head and let go of insecurity. BE BOLD - Keeping quiet about your likes, dislikes, beliefs and opinions in a relationship just because you want to be on the same page with a guy is a no-no. This can lead to fights farther down the road, when he finds out you actually hate his cooking, despise beer and can’t bear to watch another one of his favorite movies DON’T HIDE YOUR QUIRKS - They make you interesting. Remember it’s okay to be weird sometimes! LOOSEN UP - Stop worrying so much about pleasing him (and everyone else around you), and just have a good time. Life is too short to spend so much time and energy trying to be someone you’re not.
Most importantly, be with someone who makes you happy. Be with someone who knows exactly what they have when they have you. Dating can cause us to hide who we really are, thinking it will help us find or hang onto a guy. There is no substitute for the real you, so don’t change your personality to match what you think someone wants. Instead, stay true to who you are.